Tickling Tips
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Getting Started

Starting off is the hardest thing about tickling for relaxation. You need to find someone you really trust. It's important to be as relaxed as you can be when being tickled. And many people wouldn't want it being spread around that they enjoy being tickled. If so, you must be confident that the person you ask to tickle you will keep it just between the two (or maybe more) of you. You must also be comfortable with whoever you choose touching you wherever it is that you want to be tickled. A family member, partner, friend or girlfriend/boyfriend is best.

Once you've chosen a person, you need to find out how they would feel about doing it. This can be awkward or embarrassing. But if you really want to try it, you'll have to get past it. When you ask them, do it in privacy. You could explain to them that you're feeling very stressed, and you were wondering how they would feel about helping you relax by tickling you. Explain that you've heard that it relaxes you and you wanted to try it out. If it's someone you're really comfortable with, there's a very good chance that they'll say yes.

On the other hand, if you simply want to try it but you’re not feeling particularly stressed or tired, a simple “I want you to tickle me” could suffice. It really depends on who you’re talking to, and what your relationship to them is.

If they have questions about it, answer them honestly and they might be more comfortable with it.  Now, if they say no, just say something like "That's alright, don't stress about it." Don't make a big deal about it; it will just be more awkward.  Note: if it's a friend or family member they might be very reluctant if they think it's a sexual thing for you. You need to allay those fears.

Of course, there's a very good chance they'll say yes. Look at it this way; if you’re comfortable enough with that person to ask them to tickle you, they are probably comfortable enough with you to do it! If they say yes, say something along the lines of thank you and either proceed with the tickling or arrange a time to do it.

It's good to have some idea of just how and where you want to be tickled. Of course, it's very individual. In general, you want to start off being tickled quite gently and slowly over a few minutes work up to a point where you can only just stand it. You can find details and some ideas in the Tickling Tips section.

After they've tickled you, it’s good to say thank you. This shows that you appreciate them making you feel better. If you want, you can offer to tickle them, although you may like to say that it can be another day if they want. You don't want to put too much pressure on them. And if they say they don't like being tickled, you can say that's OK, but if they ever want to try it, they can.

So, now that someone has agreed to tickle you, you need to actually go through with it! So have a look at the “Giving it a try” section next.